"Lorne, you are really good at turkey sandwiches," Kiersten Keeling, age 5.
"But not as good as Daddy at real cooking," Taylor Keeling, age 7.
"And I'm just a good eater," Madison Keeling, age 3.
And the truth finally comes out. It's no secret in our house that Jim is the king of the kitchen, and I simply exist in his court. Thankfully, of course! That's part of the glory of knowing what you're good at- I know cooking is not my deal. Jim knows yummy mashed potatoes and ribs are his forte. And with that, we all live happily ever after.
But, you and I know there's a whole world outside of our cabinet filled kitchen cove- and lots more things to try to be good at. So after this whole "Lorne is bad at cooking" conversation this weekend, the girls and Jim and I talked about what we are each good at. Essentially, we talked about what our gift from God is.
Kiersten says she's good at coloring. Madison stuck with eating as being her one true talent. And Taylor is good at making things. But, there are also a million other talents they each have...from singing to dancing to have a natural knack for humor...as parents, Jim and I see all of the coolness that lies in them. I'm glad they each were able to name something on their own, without our help...and I hope it's always this easy for the girls to know what they shine at. But as most adults know, the older we get, the more difficult it is to nail down those gold star moments.
Perhaps its because we no longer get the constant reinforcement of our parents, teachers and coaches...telling us how good we are doing. Instead, we get bosses and co-workers, asking for more and telling us what needs improved. Not necessarily negative information, but also not the green stamp, sunshine smiley of our school days.
I'm still working to figure out where/what my gift is...and how I can use it to benefit both my family and my community. In the meantime, Jim and I will continue to let the girls know what we think they're awesome at....and help them continue to cultivate the ways that God has blessed them.
So this week, I encourage all of the parents who might read this blog to watch and learn about their kid(s)...tell them what they are good at. Encourage them. Love them. Help them learn to shine with their own sparkly gift. And maybe, when you're at work this week, and someone does something uniquely neat...let them know.
Remember, we can only build our future by building each other.
I'll be working on my mashed potatoes until next time,